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The Perfectly Planned Audition – Here’s What It Really Looks Like

Growing up in NYC, I was exposed to everything under the sun. My love of a set-life started in college when I majored in TV production. From TV to radio to the fashion industry, I felt completely comfortable within those environments. I actually loved it so much I even dabbled as an extra several times. I was in quite a few scenes in Sex And The City, the movie The Mirror Has Two Faces, and The First Wives Club. I worked behind the scenes with The Howard Stern Show and E! Entertainment Television and decided to try a year in the Versace Showroom. I eventually went on to teach Broadcast Journalism and TV Production for over a decade at the high school level. All these experiences naturally made me want to expose my children to the excitement and opportunity in the industry.

No matter where we lived, I always sought out a local agent to get my kids or myself on some sort of roster. While residing in North Carolina, the kids landed their first movie roles. Jackson and Dylan were the younger versions of the principal actors in Safe Haven, while Roman was used as an infant on We Are The Millers.  I even twisted my husband’s arm to be in the stripper scene with Jennifer Aniston in We Are The Millers.

It’s not always easy to find, but modeling and acting can be done in any state you live in. There are always local commercials and print campaigns, and sometimes movies need local actors for filming. You can also travel to the larger cities. Yesterday, on set, I met a family from Utah that flies in for certain jobs. It requires some commitment, but it’s definitely possible to do this kind of stuff, no matter where you live. However, there was a huge lesson to be learned even for the most prepared! 

3 Unexpected Things That Can Happen

Your child may not perform even if they book the job

When letting your kids audition for a role or a modeling gig, you always pat them on the back and say to break a leg. You encourage them to do their best and have fun. It gets super exciting when they get a callback because it means, “We like you and want to see you again.” Then the magical call or email that your child booked the job has you jumping for joy. How cool! But one thing I never expected was my child not performing on the day of the job. It never crossed my mind that my baby could be cranky and have an off day.

Baby Brody has been booking jobs since he was six-months old. He’s good-natured and has always done well, so I never expected what was to come.

Recently, he booked a pretty big national campaign with a very big brand. We showed up to set and suddenly he did not want to get out of my arms to play with the other kids. After a few minutes, I put him down. He ran full speed back to me. He simply wasn’t having it. The other kids did well, so it didn’t affect the campaign, but our little bundle of love didn’t get the chance to have his photo taken.

It even got worse. They put an adorable cap on his head and he threw it. I started to blame myself because I had to wake him extra early to leave that morning. I could have stayed at a hotel closer to the set and get ample rest, but it didn’t even occur to me. Kids are kids and in this case my little one is only eighteen-months old. He was cranky and its ok. As parents, we have to protect our babies and let them direct the day. No matter how much I would have loved to have seen him in the ad, he wasn’t having it. You have to put your own disappointments aside and move on. At the end of the day, what really matters? That you and your kids are healthy and just be happy you had the chance. 

They cut the scene

My oldest has an innate passion to act. He wants to pursue acting for TV and films. When I finally found an agent that would take him, he landed a pretty big audition for the hit show Modern Family. We ran lines in the hallway outside and he remembered them all. In the audition he impressed the casting direction and they immediately put him on hold. It was a big moment for our little guy and he was cast in the role!

Fast forward and suddenly they told us they had cut the scene. For me, it was like a carrot dangling in the distance. I learned from multiple agents not to obsess (though at times I do) and to move on right away. We learned our lesson with this one. Even if your kid books a pretty big role, Hollywood and scripts are unpredictable. They cut scenes. They cut characters. In our case they wrote out the scene that was going to feature Jackson.

You have to decide … do you sink or swim? What are you teaching your kids? I focus on how wonderful it is to even have the opportunity to audition and how wonderful it is that he was chosen – and then we move on. 

The unexpected is the expected

You have to expect the unexpected in this industry. I took Baby Brody once to an audition that the older kids had booked. We were told originally that he was too old, but I had him crash the audition.  He actually booked the job while his siblings didn’t.

You just never know in this industry … kind of like parenting. There is no manual on how to do things right. There is no rhyme or reason for how anything happens. Sometimes its pure talent and sometimes its pure luck. Being at the right place at the right time also holds true. I met a prominent executive of a huge kids brand once and next thing I knew, my three older children graced five of their catalogues. However you get there, just keep the kids grounded and teach them to celebrate the child that did get the job. One mom told me that they never talk about the auditions. If they get a call great, but if not, they have already moved on to what’s next.

We are so thankful for all the opportunities. It’s fun, and the people we meet along the way become your little industry family.  However, there are definitely lessons to be learned in all of it!

Are you trying to pursue this industry? Have you had crazy things happen? Please comment below!

For more articles on Young Hollywood, check out 4 Things You Need To Know About Your Child Modeling,  Could Your Child Be A Model, and Lights, Camera, Action.



  1. YEA!!!! Go Brody Bear– you redefine success in this world as well. It sounds like your kids have been so incredibly blessed to have booked so many higher profile projects already that it’s really incredible. Most parents/kids have never seen a paid job up to this point. Consider this time that the real victory is living and loving through this experience ; such an adventure that you can look back on and have a hearty giggle– your perfectly handsome and naturally show stopping baby was not infact ready for his close up– that means he’s healthy and NORMAl;-)) Kudos to you Mom for showing the awesome example of perseverance and humor.

    1. Danielle Lucia Schaffer

      Thanks for your unconditional support and as always, I LOVE your perspective…. You are right… they have all been paid up this point and you are right thats a blessing…. hugs hugs hugs

  2. I love seeing all the successes of your beautiful kids! You are a wonderful mom to introduce them to so much!!

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