When I first let Boss Baby Brody wear his sister’s Elsa princess dress I wasn’t setting out to break traditional gender roles. He wasn’t trying to make a statement about social change. I was simply a mom who wanted my baby boy to have the toys that made him happy. And he just wanted to “Let It Go.” From the moment he could walk—and even before!—he’s loved to dance, perform and play pretend. At first, to me, it didn’t seem different or unusual, it was just my son being himself.

Confident children are better equipped to deal with peer pressure, responsibility, frustrations, challenges, and both positive and negative emotions.

Celebrate Their Talents

Fast forward a couple of years and suddenly Boss Baby Brody has gone viral. He’s a happy, adorable dancing machine who’s catching the attention of Oprah, auditioning for “So You Think You Can Dance” and pulling in over 553k followers on Instagram. Overnight he became the focus of hundreds of thousands of people, and the spotlight was on him. He’s been featured in Variety, Rolling Stone, Popsugar, MTV, and Niall Horan’s “No Judgement” videoWe were proud happy parents, but then the comments started flooding in. Suddenly I had to step back and think about what my son and family represented and what we stood for.

Kids who feel good about themselves have the confidence to try new things. They are more likely to try their best.

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Focus On Your Child

As the mom of such an artistic soul, I’ve heard it all on social media—the good, the bad and the ugly. From moms touting their praise of how well he’s being raised and how he’s breaking traditional gender roles, to the not-so-friendly comments, judging me for “not raising him like a boy,” “ruining his childhood” or “turning him gay.”

It’s hard hearing people call you a bad mother. But it’s a million times harder hearing them say hateful things about your child. Thankfully, 99 percent of his followers support and adore Boss Baby Brody, cheering him on for being himself and bringing light and happiness into the world. But that last one percent of hateful comments worry me.

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Letting Your Kids Be Themselves

Kids should be celebrated for who they are and who they are meant to be. There’s nothing wrong with encouraging his true spirit to shine through. And it’s scary to think about, but what if those one percent of naysayers were his mom? Would he be happy? Would he dance? In my heart I know his creativity and passion would be stifled, and he wouldn’t be allowed to be himself. And that scares me more than any of the nasty comments I’ve read on social media.

Self-esteem helps kids cope with mistakes. It helps kids try again, even if they fail at first. As a result, self-esteem helps kids do better at school, at home, and with friends.

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An Unwitting Icon For Breaking Gender Roles

While I want Brody to be his happy, energetic and creative self, I also have to acknowledge that my son, albeit unwittingly, stands for something more than fluffy tutus and Disney solos. Just by being who he is, he’s become a voice for social change and an icon for breaking traditional gender roles. We’re beyond proud of him, but to Bobby and me, he’s just a child, and we celebrate our children for being who they are. So if Brody wants to dress in his sister’s costumes, wear Elsa dresses and sport a tutu, we will gladly put them on him. He’s a child, and as long as he’s kind and happy, that’s all we care about.

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I’m So Proud of Boss Baby Brody

Of course, now that Brody is a little older I realize he’s a little different than most boys his age. But there’s nothing wrong with that. As his mother I’m proud that he’s so talented and creative, no matter where his passions lie. I’m his mom, and I’m always going to stand beside him and support him because that’s what mothers do. Just think—if he’s bringing this much joy to thousands of strangers he’s never even met, could you imagine what the world would be like if we all encouraged our kids to be their unique, amazing, creative selves?

When kids are confident and secure about who they are, they’re more likely to have a growth mindset. That means they can motivate themselves to take on new challenges and cope with and learn from mistakes.

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Let Kids Explore Their Passions

Our children’s creativity, individuality, interests and talents shouldn’t be constrained by traditional gender roles. Does your daughter want to take wresting? My son wants to take ballet. Neither is wrong and they should all be celebrated. The minute we let them be who they are, we unlock their passion to truly shine and flourish. Everyone is different, and Bobby and I raise our children to celebrate each other’s differences—it’s what makes the world so beautiful! I just wish I could see more of this in the world. So moms, let your kids be themselves—let them dance, let them sing, let them paint—just don’t let them stop being who they truly are.

Confident students are more outgoing and find it easier to make new friends.

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7 thoughts on “Why Brody’s Dancing Stands for Social Change By Breaking Gender Roles”

  1. Amazing! My daughter is 21 and when she was 5 all she wanted to do was play sports and where her brothers clothing including boys underwear and we let her! Who cares! In first grade all the girls moms would come up to me and say my daughter wants to dress sporty like Lucky (yes her name) she was a trend setter at 5. When she was 8 we had to go to an event, i was so worried because I couldn’t imagine her wearing a dress, so I said, you know you can wear a suit and tie if you want. Her response was mom I’m a girl I don’t want to wear a suit. So we went out and got a basket ball jersey and added a skirt to it and she was the happiest girl in the world.
    Let them comment who cares! As long as Brody is happy that’s what matters.

  2. Hooray for Brody! He’s going to be a star. (Well, he kinda already is one.) And all my best to your other children as well. It’s great that you are giving them support and resources for developing their talents and interests.

  3. So proud of parents like you. Who see each child as an individual. Who let them be who they are. Brody is a beautiful free dancing by butterfly that truly is soaring. My daughter who has #upsyndrome has enjoyed both genders. So we let her and have told her what ever she wants is good as along as she is happy .l, like your son. Congratulations

  4. I don’t support breaking traditional gender roles, but I support whoever and whatever Brody wants to be. I love Brody, he’s happy, inspiring, and an amazingly talented dancer. He has an extremely bright future, and I hope he never stops shining 🙂

  5. We encouraged our 3 daughters talents and provided and supported opportunities for them to grow in what they love. All 3 are very creative and all 3 now have their dream jobs in graphic design and animation. I was a teacher for 30 years and hated it. That’s why I let my girls dream and follow those dreams. I didnt get that opportunity.

  6. I like that you open up thinking in this area. We raised 3 sons & a daughter. Encouraging all their interests. My kids loved to dress up. Though admittedly boys didn’t choose dresses. They wore some wild ensembles to grocery store haha 😂
    Living in rural south traditional gender roles were firmly established by culture at birth by outside our influence at church/preschool.
    But our daughter played football, hunted and road 4 wheelers with her brothers. And our sons played piano, sang, beaded/braided jewelry & danced with their sister. Two of our sons wanted long hair before that was “accepted/ok” in our area back then. I proudly encouraged them to look how they wanted/felt good. Our youngest son was thought to be a girl often. And kept long hair until he chose to have it cut. Though now at age 21 it’s long again lol 😂
    It is definitely important to support all your children’s interests to help them learn & grow into who they are supposed to be.


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