Each day I try to be grateful for something in this roller coaster of a life we are all living in, especially right now in such uncertain times. And with Father’s Day this weekend, I can’t help but feel completely blessed for the man my little tribe calls “Daddy.” He’s their hero, their inspiration, and such an amazingly dedicated dad. Here are eight ways my husband is winning “Best Dad Ever” this Father’s Day.
Father’s Day is celebrated on the third Sunday in June in many countries around the world, including the Netherlands, India and the U.K. Many Christian countries, such as Spain, Portugal and Italy, celebrate fathers on St. Joseph’s Day, March 19.
Being a Good Role Model For Your Kids
You see, I didn’t grow up in some fairy tale Brady Bunch world. All of my friends can attest to my not so storybook life. However, for my kids, it’s a completely different experience. They have Bobby and me day in and day out. Bobby’s not the type of guy who just goes to work and then wants his “me” time. No, he’s quite the opposite. He’s a truly dedicated dad. His life and schedule is 100 percent planned around the time he can spend with the kids. He gets up at 5 a.m. every day so he can workout before any of us wake up. That’s just one of the little things he does to spend all of his time with us.
To be a good father you have to present, you have to be a great role model, a good disciplinarian and definitely sympathetic to the kids’ various needs. But most importantly, being a good dad truly starts with being a good husband, because great husbands by default become great dads. If there is one thing your children need it’s a stable, loving, nurturing home. If your marriage is rock solid, the “awesome dad” thing is sure to follow.
Sonora Dodd first suggested a “Father’s Day” in 1909 after listening to a Mother’s Day sermon. She hoped to establish a day to similarly honor her father. Finally, in 1972, President Nixon signed the holiday into law.
The Kids Are Always In Tow
One thing Bobby always makes sure we do is to take the kids wherever we want to go. Since they were babies we’ve always taken them out to eat, to the beach, shopping and on long trips. Bobby always makes sure we live our lives with the kids in tow. He’s a dad who is dedicated to spending as much time as possible together, as a family. The kids absolutely love it and it’s made for some of our best memories together.
Father’s Day’s official flower is the rose. A red rose is worn in your lapel on Father’s Day if your father is living, and a white rose is worn if he has passed away.
Late-Night Feedings & Bath Time
This man is truly not worried about changing a diaper, getting dirty or washing a kid. He helps me all the time. And he knows when I am pregnant, I can barely bend, so he steps up without me asking him to.
We all know how grateful I am as the mom, but the kids also see what a stellar man he is. And when I had late-night feedings and we were dying to sleep, I can assure you he was up with me, keeping me company, pushing me to get through the exhaustion.
For me, he’s a true gem, a true partner in this crazy ride of parenthood. It’s not easy, but he goes the distance.
In Thailand, the king’s birthday also serves as National Father’s Day. The celebration includes fireworks, speeches, and acts of charity and honor.
Being an Affectionate Dad
Bobby dotes on, hugs and kisses the kids. He’s an affectionate man and on many occasions, I would enter the living room and all four of our kids would be curled up, snuggled on the couch around him.
I do believe because he is affectionate, our kids will also be that way. They love giving hugs and kisses and it truly shows his actions rub off on them.
Father’s Day holds a special place in the heart for single dads. In 2017, there were 2 million households led by a single father, a 900 percent increase from the 1960s.
Praising the Kids
We have all heard about parents that are not nice to their kids. And it shouldn’t ever happen, not even once. Sure, we give time outs when needed, but we try to tell the kids about all the good things they are doing and how proud we are of them.
Bobby is always praising the kids and telling them how happy they make him. He talks to the kids the minute he walks in the door so they can brag to him about their day and he can compliment all their accomplishments. Bobby would much rather our kids have high self-esteem problems than allow them to ever feel down about themselves.
It is estimated that the word “dad” began around the late fifteenth century. It is believed that it was simply derived from baby talk, as in many languages “dada” or “tata” refers to a baby’s acknowledgment of father.
Appreciate Them While They’re Young
Bobby loves and appreciates all the stages of childhood. However, I can remember him being afraid of the kids getting any older than five. Maybe it was the fear that we’d have rebellious teenagers, or being seen with mom and dad wouldn’t be “cool” as they got older.
Now, our oldest is 13 and it has been great, but wow, it goes by fast. Bobby watches our perfect family explore and become little people as we shape and mold them into honest, noble kids.
A.A. Milne created Winnie the Pooh for his son, Christopher Robin. Pooh was based on Robin’s teddy bear, Edward, a gift Christopher had received for his first birthday
Dedicated “Dad Time”
This one is my favorite because what kids really want out of their dad is his time. Bobby is an expert at this one. He is a fully committed father and husband, always planning the next adventure whether close or far away. He is 100 percent dedicated to the role of a dad, knowing that all the kids really want is your time as opposed to the latest and greatest toy.
Every minute a parent spends with their kid, every hug, every lesson, every time you show someone less fortunate compassion, it will rub off on them. Bobby’s kindness, wisdom and not-so-funny jokes (shhhhh) rub off on our littles.
One of the earliest Father’s Day cards dates back roughly 4,000 years. Elmesu, a Babylonian child, carved a card out of clay to “wish his father good health and long life.”
Being A Hero
Bobby is getting an award this year (and every year!) as the father of the year because he knows he is molding little lives. He knows they have impressionable little minds who look up to him as their hero. It’s a huge job to fill being someone’s hero, but he’s teaching them to be good humans.
When my kids make us stop to give change to the homeless man in the middle of the road, show kindness to one another, or just make an effort to do the right thing, I start to see how much they have in common with Bobby. They are becoming just like their dad!
As of 2019, there are an estimated 191,000 stay-at-home dads in the U.S.