Finding out the sex of your baby is so different today than it was with my last three kids.  I think someone stole the Sonographer’s thunder.  Gender is detected early on before the ultrasound in a blood test, if you opt for genetic screenings.  You can’t make a mistake with DNA.  It’s either XX or XY.  I obliged to the non invasive blood work and the baby & I are looking great, but when the nurse on the phone says do you want to know what the baby is, I was caught off guard.  I immediately asked if I could call them back.  I called my husband at work and asked him if he was ready to know what it was and that we needed to conference this call.  He said NO because he had six patients to see and didn’t want to celebrate at work.  He said he would prefer I find out and I surprise him when he gets home.

Bobby, the sweet southern gentleman that he is came home with two bouquets, one pink, and one blue.  I caught him on video telling him what our new blessing is…


We didn’t tell the children right away and wanted to have a gender reveal party for them too.  So I put a box together and filled it with the color of the balloons appropriate to the sex.   We waited till the 12-week ultrasound and wanted to make sure everything was looking great before we spilled the beans.

We told them at La Jolla Shores that we were pregnant and in the box the balloon color would tell them if it’s a boy or a girl.  They were quite excited and tore the box open as fast as they could.

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So there you have it.  Another mister for the only sister!  She cried to her Daddy after the gender reveal, as she was hoping for a girl, but I made sure she understood that she would even be more special by being the only female with three brothers.  She is my one and only sweet princess and I am tickled at the thought that she will have so many brothers to go through life with.  We might be outnumbered with a future of four boys in our home, but something tells me she & I will still be in charge or shall I say, “run the roost.”  And thank goodness our two dogs are team pink!

Having a 4th still feels very surreal.  Maybe it’s because I am running around parenting the three I have.  But, every once in a while I feel a flutter, a slight kick that reminds me this is really happening.  My growing stomach is also quite the reminder, or that feeling of I must have french fries ‘RIGHT NOW’ has certainly been a clear indicator of this life I am creating.  So far, so good, this has been my easiest pregnancy out of the four, maybe it’s because I am so busy with our day-to-day.  Let the fun begin this September!

Either way, I am looking forward to the joy this little life will bring all of us.  I never thought I would have 3 sons with 1 sweet girl…. HOW AMAZING!  I am looking forward to seeing my kids interact with this new little bundle.  I would love to hear from all of you.  What are your favorite boy names?   We would love to know!






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20 thoughts on “Is it a Boy? or a Girl?”

  1. I am so excited for you all! I love the names Malachi or Dakota, but what ever you choose will be right for Schaeffer number 4!

  2. hahaha. I couldn’t help but laugh when I read “French fries !” Another bambino. Well, this just shows there’s only room in the kingdom for one queen and a princess.

  3. So happy for all of you!!! I can’t wait to meet your new California made addition!! He’s going to such a special blessing! He already is!!! Wishing you an easy pregnancy the whole way through! Love you!!!

  4. I am just so happy Dylan gets to be the one and only girl. Now that’s special and she will have bodyguards for life! I feel SO sorry for the young man who has to get through three brothers and a dad to have Dylan’s hand (one day and a VERY long time from now!)

  5. Did you make that fantastic box?? Yes, rareness/scarcity creates more value (at least in business right??) Thus Dylan is even more that diamond in your Queenly Crown!! But my oh my, something about those dreamy Schaffer boys– you and Bob sure know how to cook em– with God’s recipe;) Welcome Jude! Or Xavier! Or Oliver Pressley! Whatever you decide, it will be perfect, just like this miracle of Life… Amen!!!! (A la’ Hozier:-))


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