A wife, mother, daughter, entrepreneur, and friend—there is so much to being a mother that sometimes it feels like I’m being pulled in every direction. But with four beautiful children, I’m grateful every day that I get to put on so many different hats and be there in every capacity for my children. My house is full, and my heart is full! And as I try to navigate the joys of motherhood I remember and appreciate everything that my mom-figures did for me.

Roughly 77 percent of adults say women face a lot of pressure to be an involved parent. A significantly smaller share 49 percent says the same about men. In contrast, 76 percent of adults say men face a lot of pressure to support their family financially, while only 40 percent say women face this type of pressure.

A mom and daughter sit on the concrete hugging. A mom and kids her four kids sit on a four-poster bed.

Looking to My Grandmother

A huge part of who I am as a mother stems from two places: my childhood and my faith. It’s no secret that my youth was more chaotic than that of most children I knew growing up, but my grandmother Lucy, of whom I often share stories, could part any cloud that darkened any day, smothering me with the unconditional love and support that I not only desired but also deserved as a little one. And when I ever had doubts or fears, she made sure that I prayed.

I’m raising 1, 2… 4 kids. There’s not a day that goes by that I don’t ask myself, “What would Lucy do with this many?” How would she parent an army of children? Would she run a tight ship, sticking to strict rules, household chores, and bedtimes? Or, would she be a lenient, lax mom, keeping her cool even when the kids didn’t pick up after themselves? Better yet, would she think I’m doing a good job, and be proud of the mom I’ve become?

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Differences in Parenting

Besides my doting grandmother, I was also influenced by my mother. Unlike Grandma Lucy, my mom was wild and free, not maternal in the least, but enjoyed life and the finer things. Many times, a little too much. It’s been said more than once that she’s been on her 12th step going on 25 years now.

Her path and mine couldn’t be more different, but amidst the memories of an unstable life at home, I do recall some fond moments of taking the train into the city, eating at her favorite spots, and roller skating in Central Park. She cheered me on in the best ways she knew how by playing with me as if I were a friend.

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Women are becoming mothers later in life. The median age at which women become mothers in the U.S. is 26, up from 23 in 1994.

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Leaning on Your Family Members

Then, there was Aunt Carol, my mother’s sister who I so sweetly looked up to. She was my American Dream. She had four kids, and her halls were filled with the most beautiful, joyous noise I ever experienced. I knew that’s just what I wanted. I would wish for three boys and one girl, just like her. But I never expected that one day I’d, too, be living that same blessed life.

Despite all their differences, my grandmother, my mother, and my aunt all played an integral part of my childhood. They would ultimately shape me into a mom who can do anything.

A mom playing board games with her sons and winning.A mom with her four kids playing on the beach.

Thank You to My Many Moms

It wouldn’t be fair to carry on and gloss over the countless “moms of friends” who took me in from time to time. They showed me what it was like to be maternal, by treating me as if I were their own. Some of them still follow my journey and have been my biggest cheerleaders throughout life.

Barbara, Loretta, and Dona were just a few of the “other moms” who saw to it that I had the skills to survive and enough grit to come out winning. More often than not, I find myself inviting the friends of my children over, and making sure they, too, feel a sense of belonging and family with us.

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It’s no coincidence that the word “mom” sounds similar across different languages. After simple “oohs” and “ahh”s, “ma” is one of the first sounds babies are able to make.

A mom taking a selfie with her three kids. A mom hugging her three little boys under a large tree.

Being a Mother Who Does It All

It’s astonishing, now that I am in the thick of parenting, the number of hats a mom truly wears. Motherhood is hard, but so rewarding. In addition to the countless mommy jobs of packing lunches, kissing boo-boos, and drying tears, here are some of my favorites things about being a mother:

  1. Bobby’s Bride: No matter what, this hat comes first. As a unit, if we are good, we are ALL good. For two decades, fostering our marriage has been at the forefront of our being. Although our little ones seem to call the shots at times, it’s important for them to see Bobby as the man of the house, and to see us as a team.
  2. Chauffeur: Having four kids is no joke, and as the song goes, “Every Day I’m Shuffling.” Oh, wait, that’s hustling. Well, we do plenty of that too!
  3. Playmate: Twister. Operation. Hide and seek. We do it all. And these are the moments that we can look back on and smile.
  4. Firefighter: Putting out fires is a daily occurrence when you have four kids. Things can get heated pretty quickly, and when they argue, I jump in. When they cry, I hold them. When there’s an accident—well, that’s when I put on my doctor’s hat.
  5. Doctor: Assessing a sprain vs. a fracture, cold vs. allergies, bruises vs. boo-boos. Dr. Mom may not always have the right treatment, but she is indeed the first responder.
  6. Ring Leader: When it’s Friday night, this mama is leading the pack, planning a well-deserved evening of family fun.
  7. Teacher: It doesn’t take a degree in education to hold this title. Not a day goes by without lessons being taught. Homeschooling or not, from manners to empathy, compassion, and giving, there’s certainly something to learn every day.
  8. Hero: My favorite role is being my kids’ hero. I need them to know I will always go the distance for them and aim to set an example so they can then do the same for others.

A mom standing around a fireplace with her two sons. A mom standing on a street in NYC with her young son.

The Joys of Motherhood

If being a mom is a full-time job, does that mean I have four?! Sure does seem that way at times. And that doesn’t even count these other little gigs that I have—wife, entrepreneur, friend.

But the way I see it, is that being a mother means I get to have multiple dream jobs, and I wouldn’t change that for the world. I’m forever grateful for all the mother figures in my life, who’ve helped to shape the many walks of how I mom, wife, work, and live.

Today, 40 percent of women in America who have children under the age of 18 are the primary breadwinners in their family. In 1960, that figure was only 11 percent!

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20 thoughts on “Appreciating the Many Joys of Motherhood”

  1. I love you Danielle! What a tribute to be mentioned in your blog. Even though I also am a mother of four, there was always room to love another precious child in my life. And I am so thankful that you loved me back. Dona

  2. Beautiful post to those that you hold close to your heart. My grandmother was a big part of life too – she was the one that showed m the joy of gardening. I see my mother in myself and actions I say and take in life including raising my son.

  3. Mom’s are some of the most hardworking people in this world. You all wear many hats and i honestly don’t know how you do it! lol One day i hope i can be even half as good as a mom as my mom is to me and my siblings.

  4. If Moms will list down her accomplishments or making a MOM-CV, geez except it will be a pages long… or just put it SUPERMOM to summarized all your responsibilities. Moms deserved all the love, that why DADs should be good in spoiling them.


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