I was positive that after three, we were done having kids.   At least that’s what I thought.  Life is good, it’s crazy busy and we are thriving in the chaos of our daily lives.  Definitely not original, but on New Years Eve, celebrating the chance to restart with a fresh year ahead and……….. ooooooops!

Could this be?  Is that a positive?


Bobby and I were quite shocked for at least two weeks and then it sunk in! Cute little fingers and toes, baby clothes, a cute little one for my family of five to fuss over.  And then I got really excited!

Then I got really scared.

Scared what people would think, how they would judge.  Will they look at me like I am a Duggar and overpopulating the Earth? No one is going to throw me a shower or a sprinkle… Because this is a monsoon.  In the midst of my scared feelings, a good friend turned to us and said, “That’s amazing news, great people should have big families.  And thank you Danielle & Bobby for bringing more awesome people into our world.”  That was exactly what I needed to hear.  Then came my big exhale and I was mad at myself for any lingering doubt.  IMG_6130We sent silly text messages to our loved ones and they were hysterical laughing and couldn’t believe this was happening AGAIN.  Yes, I occasionally got the…..

“Better you than me,”  “Wow you are fertile,” “Bobby’s such a stud,” “So awesome you already have a mini van,” “Are you Catholic or Mormon?,” “This is it… RIGHT?” “Wow, a 4th… that’s a way to live.”

I smiled with whatever anyone said.  Truth is, I am excited!  I have always wanted four kids, just really wasn’t expecting it to happen.  Not now at least.  I had my three kids in my thirties and Bobby is now 39 and I just like to go by his age (wink wink).



So far so good.  Things are looking good for me and this sweet life I am carrying.  The baby is due in September and we have a lot going on with an upcoming move.  We are no strangers to moving with five plus years in the United States Navy, but I am ready to plant some roots.

To some people having a big family is a blessing, to others they question the sanity.  For me, I am thrilled to bring another descent, caring person into this world.  Someone who is a cheerleader to the human race.  I think it’s an absolute blessing for sure! I get the chance to make the world a better place and it is my hope to make that contribution.  We sure need more good people fighting for human rights and saving our planet.

This is going to be a very interesting journey for our family.  Either way, it’s exciting… it’s more than exciting.  It’s Epic!  There is never a dull moment being part of the Schaffer family!




If you want a good laugh and want to hear what it’s like having four kids WATCH THIS!!!!!


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20 thoughts on “Here We Go Again….”

  1. BEYOND excited for your tribe!!! and yes your texts caught me by complete surprise!!! its absolutely correct in saying you and bobby will just be adding another awesome person to this world. i love you all xoxox

  2. I love this! Justin and I thought we were done after two boys. I was comfort with my one precious girl and two handsome boys… but oh no…. GOD had other plans for us!! We got baby number 4 too. He is the perfect t addition to our family and I couldn’t ask for a better way to “tie” our family up! Tubes were tied after I delivered Hudson in December. Very happy for you and Bobby!

  3. I had 3 sons 12. 22. 24 yrs and thought I was done then few days after I turned 43 I found out it wasnt menopause I was pregnant and I was on birth control Lovely.. . I cried for 3 weeks and I just couldn’t get out of bed thinking I was starting all over again and it was my sons who got me out of bed ..Mom its going to be a girl you will finally have a baby girl to dress up put pretty bows,dresses and girlie shoes . my husband was thrilled : ) long story short my baby girl was healthy 9 pounds 8 oz and she is almost 4yrs now hates bows and pretty shoes and dresses but she is my golden egg full of life . energy , head strong she is my happiness on good days and bad days wouldnt change a thing..

  4. congrats! You are such a great mom and have such a sweet family. So happy for you guys. The video was hilarious!! Where are you moving to?

  5. Danielle!
    I couldn’t believe it when you told me. I wanted to scream I was so EXCITED for you and your beautiful family. Another Schaffer is a blessing to all. Your family is amazing and you are an inspiration! Love to you!!! Xoxo G

  6. Four should be a piece of cake for you and Bobby! Ask my parents how they managed to raise seven of us with style and grace WITHOUT losing their sanity!! I remember going on vacation every year and we would see people on the highway trying to count the number of kids in our stationwagon. LOL My parents used to get all the classic remarks too but we love our big family and wouldn’t change it for the world! You’re already ROCKSTAR parents, adding a few more to the band will make it even more awesome…..and a bit bit LOUDER too!!


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